Pregnancy seekers can go through an emotional rollercoaster of worry, sadness and frustration. They may also face a variety of bereavements: the bereavement of a positive pregnancy test, the bereavement of an uncomplicated pregnancy, or the bereavement of fertility and parenthood.
Certain situations, such as seeing someone pregnant, passing a child in the street, or being asked about pregnancy, can give rise to feelings of failure, injustice and jealousy. These emotions are legitimate and must be recognized and accepted.
- Give yourself a break during the pregnancy search process to take care of yourself and your relationship.
- Continue to seek pleasure in your sexuality and plan activities that focus on pleasure, without broaching the subject of fertility, even though it may be omnipresent.
- Identify and invest in projects you’ve put aside, like renovations or travel, without feeling guilty.
- If you wish, join a community of like-minded people and share your experiences. You can also confide in trusted friends and family.
- Don’t hesitate to seek psychosocial help if necessary.
When is it advisable to consult a fertility professional in the absence of pregnancy?
It is recommended to consult a health care professional after having regular sexual relations aimed at pregnancy for one year. For people over 35 or those with irregular periods, it is advisable to consult a specialist after 6 months of trying.
Are treatments free?
- Artificial insemination: Up to 9 cycles are reimbursed by the RAMQ. If pregnancy occurs, a further 9 cycles can also be covered.
- In vitro fertilization: One cycle is reimbursed for eligible individuals. A tax credit can also help cover certain costs.
Partners can also experience challenges during the pregnancy search. This can manifest itself in different ways, such as hiding your emotions, isolating yourself or becoming more distant. To help you get through this period, it may be helpful to :
- Express your needs to your partner and those around you.
- Live your emotions without guilt.
- Invest in personal projects such as hobbies or renovations.
- Find someone you trust to confide in.
- Seek psychosocial help if necessary.
