A perinatal death, regardless of when it occurs during pregnancy, is a painful experience, often amplified by its unpredictability, the absence of tangible memories and the difficulty of those around the baby to recognize grief.
The emotions felt are profound and should not be minimized. Although many people look for explanations or feel guilty, it’s essential to remember that, in the majority of cases, the causes remain unknown and unavoidable.
To get through this period :
- Give yourself the right to experience your own emotions, even if they differ from those of your partner.
- If it helps, express your journey in writing or create a ritual in memory of the pregnancy.
- Communicate your needs to those around you, and don’t hesitate to ask for more time off if necessary.
- Join a support community or confide in loved ones.
- Consider preparing a short note for your colleagues if you’re worried about returning to work.
- Be attentive‧ve sensitive dates and don’t hesitate to consult a‧e professional‧le for psychosocial support.
Partners may also find it difficult to cope with a perinatal death, even if the pregnancy did not take place in their bodies. Their grief can manifest itself in different ways, sometimes by hiding their emotions to appear strong, or by taking refuge in their work. They may feel left out, as attention is often focused on the pregnant person, but their experience deserves to be recognized and supported just as much.
For them too, it is important to :
- Don’t hesitate to ask for psychosocial support if you need it.
- Express their needs and recognize their emotions.
- Take time off if necessary and confide in someone you trust.
