Sharing the load for a fair and caring relationship

Contraception is often associated with a heavy mental burden, a reality that falls mainly on women.¹. This burden, made up of emotional and logistical considerations (such as managing appointments, travel, or financial expenses)²should not, however, be borne solely by those taking contraception. In a relationship, this burden deserves to be shared equitably, with each partner actively involved.

Why spread the contraceptive load? Taking the burden of contraception into account in the relationship is a kind and fair way of operating. This demonstrates a real sense of responsibility and respect for the relationship balance, where both partners actively participate in the decisions and actions needed to avoid an unwanted pregnancy.

How to be an active partner in contraception? Here are a few ways to get involved and share the load:

1. Opt for open, respectful communication: Discuss your contraceptive expectations, preferences and needs. This allows us to approach the subject in a spirit of goodwill, and avoid responsibility always resting on one person.
2. Express your willingness to participate: Tell your partner about your desire to become more involved in contraception. This can mean offering to share the cost, helping with the process, or simply being there to help with contraceptive choices and questions.
3. Take concrete action: Providing information, offering to contribute financially, picking up the contraceptive method or helping to remember to take it are all ways of showing your commitment.
4. Sharing responsibility for contraceptive methods: For example, if you each have a condom to hand, you ensure that the burden doesn’t fall solely on one person, and reinforce the effectiveness of the method used by reducing the risk of forgetting it.

Contraception is a couple’s business, and every step we take to lighten the load is a step towards a balanced, harmonious relationship.